Comments on: Raspberry and chips

By: David

David — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 02:34:58 +0000

I also don’t think you were stupid to go — it might have been better not to, but your motives were loving and supportive to your friend; you weren’t trying to conform or pressuring yourself to fit in. However, I am so sorry that it turned out to be so painful. Nobody should have to endure memories like those. Nobody should have to endure the cruelty that causes such memories.

By: castorgirl

castorgirl — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 09:06:46 +0000

I know what you mean about the snowballs… they’re just gross!! It’s amazing/awful how the seemingly smallest of things can have a dramatic impact on us.

M will always go to alcohol as a coping mechanism, she/we/I have addiction issues when it comes to alcohol. We don’t use it much now, but we were heading that way in our early 20′s.

Take care,
CG :)

By: Kerro

Kerro — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 04:13:31 +0000

I know you felt stupid, though I don’t think you are. You did the best you could in the circumstances and that turned out to be drinking. On this occasion I say so what.

I was thinking about you and your raspberry and chips this morning (my father coming over today)… I have the exact same response to those awful snowball things. You know the ones – sticky marshmallow covered in chocolate and coconut? Bleuch.

By: castorgirl

castorgirl — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 21:43:30 +0000

Thanks Kerro :)

I felt more stupid than brave during all the flashbacks. I couldn’t even do anything positive like leave as soon as I realised how bad it was going to be, I just kept on drinking…

Take care,
CG xoxox

By: Kerro

Kerro — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 09:01:55 +0000

CG, I’m so very sorry.

I don’t think you were stupid for going – you went to support your friend and colleague, and I think that was a very brave thing to do.

Safe hugs to you.

K
xoxoxo

By: castorgirl

castorgirl — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 08:13:16 +0000

Hi Michael,

I’m glad to help in some way…

Take care,
CG

By: castorgirl

castorgirl — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 08:12:12 +0000

Thank you JIP :)

By: castorgirl

castorgirl — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 08:11:55 +0000

Hi Kate,

It’s our fault for allowing ourselves to be forced into going. We said we wouldn’t, but relented under the pressure to go. In the car our team leader said we didn’t have to if we didn’t want to, but by then we were driving them there. We did it because we wanted to support our friend any way we could. We also didn’t realise how similar the club would be in design and feel.

So stupid for going…

Thank you for your support :)
Take care,
CG

By: Michael

Michael — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 22:26:07 +0000

Thank you for sharing. I am writing to let you know it was helpful to me and my healing.

One of the farthest places I get away from me is when there is drinking. My parents never drank at all and the smell of alcohol is a connection to the abuse I was not aware of. Pretty much I just go away if I smell alcohol.

All the times I have been around alcohol were stored in the same place in my memory. That part of me has been away for about 8 years. He is back now. We need him and what he can do to heal.

So, I am very sorry about what happened to you and am thankful you shared as it made things easier for me.

By: jumpinginpuddles/lifesspacings

jumpinginpuddles/lifesspacings — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 22:18:40 +0000

hearing your pain