Comments on: What is healing?

By: David

David — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 13:46:14 +0000

I felt that way too — and sometimes I still do — before I sat down and really thought about what it meant. It meant that the system was starting to trust me enough to try to get my attention. The tricky thing is that, of course, part of the system really hates the vulnerable part of the system, and its way of trying to get my attention is to flood me with these feelings of shame. So in a way, that too is a good thing, but it has to be put into perspective.

By: castorgirl

castorgirl — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 07:13:26 +0000

I sometimes get confused between the end point of being “healed”, and the process of healing which gets us to that point. I like your definition of being healed, it would be a great place to be…

Take care,
Sophie :)

By: castorgirl

castorgirl — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 07:10:23 +0000

That’s what Liz said as well David. It still feels wrong, uncomfortable, weak and pathetic. I’m not sure if I’m going to be able to cope with this change.

By: jumpinginpuddles/lifesspacings

jumpinginpuddles/lifesspacings — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 20:45:48 +0000

i thoguht healing was when it didnt hurt anymore and you could look at it without pain

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Sun, 20 Sep 2009 12:19:45 +0000

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By: David

David — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 06:18:40 +0000

I found it to be crazymaking too, when it started happening to me, but believe me (us, all of us) it’s an incredibly good sign.

By: castorgirl

castorgirl — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 01:52:29 +0000

Hi Michael,

I can understand that not everyone works hard in therapy, but I often wonder if I’m one of the ones who don’t. My therapeutic relationship is fairly new, so I know that I’m still doing a great deal of protecting of myself and my issues.

I can relate to needing to sleep for hours after a session. I typically either want to sprint away as soon as I can, or go and sleep.

It’s already been interesting with the 100′s & 1000′s, we now have them throughout the kitchen as we were taking photos of them dropping onto the kitchen bench yesterday :)

Take care,
B

By: castorgirl

castorgirl — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 01:46:32 +0000

Hi Paul,

I think how we hear the words about “working hard” is very dependant on our feelings at the time. A previous therapist said it to me several times – at times it made me feel proud, but at times it was (as cbtish described) condescending drivel.

I’m definitely changing rapidly in how I’m coping. Usually I don’t cry at all, but on Friday I was triggered by a children’s song and suddenly the tears started falling. I had no feelings of being sad, but I couldn’t stop the tears. Liz will probably consider this healing and progress, I see it as crazy making… It’s so at odds with how I’ve done things in the past that it makes me incredibly uncomfortable.

Take care,
B

By: castorgirl

castorgirl — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 01:16:20 +0000

Hi Ivory,

The site is still a work in progress – apologies to those who visit and find that M playing with the coding has suddenly thrown everything out of whack :)

Thank you so much for your words… I’ve never thought of healing as doing whatever you can to stay here and be as safe as you can be. But I think that’s what it is for me at the moment.

Good grief, 3 sessions??? That’s nothing, not even a token gesture towards assistance. Even most short courses of therapy suggest 10-12 sessions will be needed. I’m so sorry that you’ve got so little financial help.

Take care,
B

By: castorgirl

castorgirl — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 01:10:49 +0000

I was thinking that yesterday would be better for this healing thing to be ticked off as complete :) Patience was never one of my strengths… But yes, it seems to be as if hanging on is the only thing we can do some days…

Take care,
B