Comments on: Once upon a time… http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/once-upon-a-time/ Working on putting the pieces back together Wed, 01 Feb 2012 19:33:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: marjakathriver http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/once-upon-a-time/comment-page-1/#comment-1179 marjakathriver Mon, 28 Sep 2009 15:16:55 +0000 http://castorgirl.wordpress.com/?p=1219#comment-1179 Thanks for sharing this part of your story and thanks so much for allowing us to use it for The Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse. This reminds me somewhat of my first marriage. My first husband's father was an alcoholic. At the time, I didn't have the courage to look at my own abusive childhood. But his abuse of me was the "straw" that helped me decide that I would never again be a victim. I love the video. It is powerful...and leaves us with a sense of hope. I am always in awe of anyone who can produce one of these on their own. Great work! I notice you have a link up to me on your sidebar. Thanks! I will put one up to your blog at mine as well. And I hope it's okay if I follow you over at Twitter. Thanks for sharing this part of your story and thanks so much for allowing us to use it for The Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse. This reminds me somewhat of my first marriage. My first husband’s father was an alcoholic. At the time, I didn’t have the courage to look at my own abusive childhood. But his abuse of me was the “straw” that helped me decide that I would never again be a victim.

I love the video. It is powerful…and leaves us with a sense of hope. I am always in awe of anyone who can produce one of these on their own. Great work!

I notice you have a link up to me on your sidebar. Thanks! I will put one up to your blog at mine as well. And I hope it’s okay if I follow you over at Twitter.

]]> By: castorgirl http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/once-upon-a-time/comment-page-1/#comment-1177 castorgirl Sun, 27 Sep 2009 20:22:07 +0000 http://castorgirl.wordpress.com/?p=1219#comment-1177 Thank you Paula. Thank you Paula.

]]> By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/once-upon-a-time/comment-page-1/#comment-1175 Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker Sun, 27 Sep 2009 04:53:17 +0000 http://castorgirl.wordpress.com/?p=1219#comment-1175 CastorGirl, you are just as worthy as any of us. CastorGirl, you are just as worthy as any of us.

]]> By: castorgirl http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/once-upon-a-time/comment-page-1/#comment-1171 castorgirl Sun, 27 Sep 2009 03:30:39 +0000 http://castorgirl.wordpress.com/?p=1219#comment-1171 Hi Patricia, It's still very difficult to separate out the emotions around the marriage. If it was anyone else, I'd be telling them exactly what you've just told me - there is no excuse, please get out etc. During the marriage, I even helped a woman leave her abusive marriage. All the while, I couldn't see that this is what was happening to me. I don't consider myself worthy of the care others do. Thank you for your comment. I'm still working on getting back to "me". Take care, CG Hi Patricia,

It’s still very difficult to separate out the emotions around the marriage. If it was anyone else, I’d be telling them exactly what you’ve just told me – there is no excuse, please get out etc. During the marriage, I even helped a woman leave her abusive marriage. All the while, I couldn’t see that this is what was happening to me. I don’t consider myself worthy of the care others do.

Thank you for your comment.
I’m still working on getting back to “me”.

Take care,
CG

]]> By: castorgirl http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/once-upon-a-time/comment-page-1/#comment-1170 castorgirl Sun, 27 Sep 2009 03:26:17 +0000 http://castorgirl.wordpress.com/?p=1219#comment-1170 Hi Paula, Thank you... I'm so sorry that you have been there too, but am glad you are now free of the destruction the abuse can cause. Take care, CG Hi Paula,

Thank you… I’m so sorry that you have been there too, but am glad you are now free of the destruction the abuse can cause.

Take care,
CG

]]> By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/once-upon-a-time/comment-page-1/#comment-1168 Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker Sat, 26 Sep 2009 19:54:51 +0000 http://castorgirl.wordpress.com/?p=1219#comment-1168 I don't care how mean or bad you thought you were in this relationship. There is no reason at all for someone else to brutalize you the way that this man did. Physical violence only adds to the problem. Congratulations on having the strength to say no to the domestic violence. Thank you for submitting this article and video to this month's Carnival. I will be back to read more. I don’t care how mean or bad you thought you were in this relationship. There is no reason at all for someone else to brutalize you the way that this man did. Physical violence only adds to the problem. Congratulations on having the strength to say no to the domestic violence.

Thank you for submitting this article and video to this month’s Carnival. I will be back to read more.

]]> By: Paula http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/once-upon-a-time/comment-page-1/#comment-1165 Paula Sat, 26 Sep 2009 11:24:15 +0000 http://castorgirl.wordpress.com/?p=1219#comment-1165 Mill of hugs to you. Like many I can relate, have been there. It takes so much strength and will power to break away. I am so glad you are on the winning route. Paula xxx Mill of hugs to you. Like many I can relate, have been there. It takes so much strength and will power to break away. I am so glad you are on the winning route. Paula xxx

]]> By: castorgirl http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/once-upon-a-time/comment-page-1/#comment-1162 castorgirl Sat, 26 Sep 2009 04:58:15 +0000 http://castorgirl.wordpress.com/?p=1219#comment-1162 Hi Shen, I've just come from reading your submission to the blog carnival... it's absolutely stunning and shows so well why my marriage was never going to work. Thank you and take care, Michelle Hi Shen,

I’ve just come from reading your submission to the blog carnival… it’s absolutely stunning and shows so well why my marriage was never going to work.

Thank you and take care,
Michelle

]]> By: shen http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/once-upon-a-time/comment-page-1/#comment-1161 shen Fri, 25 Sep 2009 21:31:34 +0000 http://castorgirl.wordpress.com/?p=1219#comment-1161 You write: He was not interested in healing. He paid lip-service to therapy, but wasn’t prepared to invest the time and energy. That is the key, right there. Only if you are ready to do what it takes to become whole, can you find your way back to the path you were meant to take. I'm glad you are on your way. You write: He was not interested in healing. He paid lip-service to therapy, but wasn’t prepared to invest the time and energy.

That is the key, right there. Only if you are ready to do what it takes to become whole, can you find your way back to the path you were meant to take.

I’m glad you are on your way.

]]> By: castorgirl http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/once-upon-a-time/comment-page-1/#comment-1121 castorgirl Sat, 12 Sep 2009 01:56:07 +0000 http://castorgirl.wordpress.com/?p=1219#comment-1121 I'm so sorry you've been there too Kerro... It's an awful space to be in, you get so enmeshed in them and their issues that you lose yourself. It's so easy to blame yourself and explain it all away. I'm speechless as to what to say about the courage and strength... I've never felt courageous, it was just what I needed to do to survive. Most of it felt as if it was out of my control. Even after he tried to kill me only part of me was looking for a way out. I had a plan for escaping, but it was going to take several more months to put into action as it revolved around saving more money. I was still going to stick with that plan if he hadn't left when he did. I some ways, the flashbacks involving him are worse than the ones from the childhood - possibly because I consider myself more accountable or maybe because they are newer and clearer in my memory. (((Warm safe hugs))) in return... I’m so sorry you’ve been there too Kerro… It’s an awful space to be in, you get so enmeshed in them and their issues that you lose yourself. It’s so easy to blame yourself and explain it all away.

I’m speechless as to what to say about the courage and strength… I’ve never felt courageous, it was just what I needed to do to survive. Most of it felt as if it was out of my control. Even after he tried to kill me only part of me was looking for a way out. I had a plan for escaping, but it was going to take several more months to put into action as it revolved around saving more money. I was still going to stick with that plan if he hadn’t left when he did.

I some ways, the flashbacks involving him are worse than the ones from the childhood – possibly because I consider myself more accountable or maybe because they are newer and clearer in my memory.

(((Warm safe hugs))) in return…

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