Comments on: I'm thick! http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/im-thick/ Working on putting the pieces back together Wed, 01 Feb 2012 19:33:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: castorgirl http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/im-thick/comment-page-1/#comment-1117 castorgirl Wed, 09 Sep 2009 03:29:51 +0000 http://castorgirl.wordpress.com/?p=1204#comment-1117 Dear The Misunderstood One, Even if your mother has died, some facts will never change and she has not been forgotten. She will always have been born on the 1st of September, no matter what. You and others still remember her, that is why people know that her birthday is on that day. This happens for good things and bad things. No matter what, it isn't your fault. You didn't do anything wrong. Thank you for writing to us. Kind regards Management. Dear The Misunderstood One,

Even if your mother has died, some facts will never change and she has not been forgotten. She will always have been born on the 1st of September, no matter what. You and others still remember her, that is why people know that her birthday is on that day. This happens for good things and bad things.

No matter what, it isn’t your fault. You didn’t do anything wrong.

Thank you for writing to us.
Kind regards
Management.

]]> By: castorgirl http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/im-thick/comment-page-1/#comment-1116 castorgirl Wed, 09 Sep 2009 03:19:37 +0000 http://castorgirl.wordpress.com/?p=1204#comment-1116 As we stopped seeing the father, this time of year became about the mothers birthday. But I know intellectually that Father's Day is a trigger from some of the flashbacks that I've experienced. I was oblivious to that this year and I'm not sure why. A rather painful learning experience. Take care, CG As we stopped seeing the father, this time of year became about the mothers birthday. But I know intellectually that Father’s Day is a trigger from some of the flashbacks that I’ve experienced. I was oblivious to that this year and I’m not sure why. A rather painful learning experience.

Take care,
CG

]]> By: Paul http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/im-thick/comment-page-1/#comment-1115 Paul Tue, 08 Sep 2009 18:30:22 +0000 http://castorgirl.wordpress.com/?p=1204#comment-1115 I'm sorry there was such a trigger. I look at this as a positive. While, yes, it would be nice to have identified the trigger beforehand, it's important to know that you are working towards this. Also, there have been many Father's Days before this past one, which probably means many other triggers. Yet this one you are aware of. And going forward you will always know this. Paul I’m sorry there was such a trigger. I look at this as a positive. While, yes, it would be nice to have identified the trigger beforehand, it’s important to know that you are working towards this. Also, there have been many Father’s Days before this past one, which probably means many other triggers. Yet this one you are aware of. And going forward you will always know this.

Paul

]]> By: castorgirl http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/im-thick/comment-page-1/#comment-1114 castorgirl Tue, 08 Sep 2009 09:09:55 +0000 http://castorgirl.wordpress.com/?p=1204#comment-1114 Hi hi The Misunderstood One, It's Aimee and Sophie :) We're so sorry that you were abandoned by your mother. Sometimes mothers don't know how to be good mothers and they get things all mixed up. Like your mother being your teacher too, that was mixing things up. But that wasn't the schools fault. School is a good place for the adult alters to take the children. We know that it wasn't safe or good for you, but the adult alters and their wife are making sure the children are safe. Aimee *waves* and sends (((warm safe hugs))) Take care, Sophie :) Hi hi The Misunderstood One,

It’s Aimee and Sophie :) We’re so sorry that you were abandoned by your mother. Sometimes mothers don’t know how to be good mothers and they get things all mixed up. Like your mother being your teacher too, that was mixing things up. But that wasn’t the schools fault. School is a good place for the adult alters to take the children. We know that it wasn’t safe or good for you, but the adult alters and their wife are making sure the children are safe.

Aimee *waves* and sends (((warm safe hugs)))
Take care,
Sophie :)

]]> By: The Misunderstood One http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/im-thick/comment-page-1/#comment-1113 The Misunderstood One Tue, 08 Sep 2009 07:58:08 +0000 http://castorgirl.wordpress.com/?p=1204#comment-1113 They say my mother has died, but how come she still has birthday on September 1st, the first day of school, so she didn't abandon me only when I was left at the asthma hospital, but she abandoned me when she turned into my teacher later in school, as well. I hate school! It was a horrible day for us, the whole system when the adult alters walked their own children to the school, I was screaming inside "Do not leave your children there, please!" And they did it anyway... I was upset, but they ignored me, the grownup alters and their wife was saying to them: "You lost your mum because she stopped being your mum the minute she became your teacher, I know you hate school for that, I do understand". But it didn't happen to the grownup alters who the wife was talking to, at all, it happened to me! The hospital and the abandonment, again and again, they just are not able to admit the gravity of how this abandonments affected me... they have no idea... never will have... They say my mother has died, but how come she still has birthday on September 1st, the first day of school, so she didn’t abandon me only when I was left at the asthma hospital, but she abandoned me when she turned into my teacher later in school, as well. I hate school! It was a horrible day for us, the whole system when the adult alters walked their own children to the school, I was screaming inside “Do not leave your children there, please!” And they did it anyway… I was upset, but they ignored me, the grownup alters and their wife was saying to them: “You lost your mum because she stopped being your mum the minute she became your teacher, I know you hate school for that, I do understand”.

But it didn’t happen to the grownup alters who the wife was talking to, at all, it happened to me! The hospital and the abandonment, again and again, they just are not able to admit the gravity of how this abandonments affected me… they have no idea… never will have…

]]> By: castorgirl http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/im-thick/comment-page-1/#comment-1112 castorgirl Mon, 07 Sep 2009 23:22:19 +0000 http://castorgirl.wordpress.com/?p=1204#comment-1112 It's a very odd feeling, isn't it? It’s a very odd feeling, isn’t it?

]]> By: castorgirl http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/im-thick/comment-page-1/#comment-1111 castorgirl Mon, 07 Sep 2009 23:21:22 +0000 http://castorgirl.wordpress.com/?p=1204#comment-1111 I think that's it, I didn't want to know about Father's Day. I haven't had any substantial contact with the father in over 15 years. So the day doesn't have any current relevance, but it does historically. But I should have been more aware so that it didn't cause the problems that it did... I think that’s it, I didn’t want to know about Father’s Day. I haven’t had any substantial contact with the father in over 15 years. So the day doesn’t have any current relevance, but it does historically. But I should have been more aware so that it didn’t cause the problems that it did…

]]> By: beauty http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/im-thick/comment-page-1/#comment-1110 beauty Sun, 06 Sep 2009 15:40:56 +0000 http://castorgirl.wordpress.com/?p=1204#comment-1110 Sometimes just knowing what is causing our mental/emotional discomfort can be such a relief. I have times like that too, when I forget what has me so upset . . . I should know, from past experience, but it's like I have amnesia once the current trigger is behind me. Sometimes just knowing what is causing our mental/emotional discomfort can be such a relief. I have times like that too, when I forget what has me so upset . . . I should know, from past experience, but it’s like I have amnesia once the current trigger is behind me.

]]> By: fromthesamesky http://www.scatteredpieces.org/2009/09/im-thick/comment-page-1/#comment-1109 fromthesamesky Sun, 06 Sep 2009 13:21:12 +0000 http://castorgirl.wordpress.com/?p=1204#comment-1109 That would make sense! It's also no wonder that you didn't 'realise' till now - why would you want to? But I'm glad you've been able to make sense of S and her feelings this week. That would make sense! It’s also no wonder that you didn’t ‘realise’ till now – why would you want to? But I’m glad you’ve been able to make sense of S and her feelings this week.

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